Ok, so I apologise in advance for the fact that this week’s post is admittedly a bit of a rant, but let’s face it, we all like one of them every now and then! This week, I want to talk about something that really grinds my gears, and that is makeup-shaming. If you don’t know what I mean by this, take a look on any given social media platform and see how long it takes to come across a guy saying that “men prefer natural girls”, or women ganging together and calling other women who wear lots of makeup “fake bitches”, simply because they choose not to wear it themselves.
I think the thing that gets to me more than anything is how most of the time these comments are genuinely intended as being well-meaning and positive, but seriously, what’s positive about judging someone for a choice they make? Similarly to the whole “men want curves not a 12 year old boy” brigade, how could anyone honestly believe that the way to build up one group of people up to is to tear down another?
In relation to makeup-shaming specifically, if you’re reading this and realise you’re guilty of it, ask yourself what it is about wearing makeup that makes a girl ‘fake’, a ‘bitch’ or a ‘liar’? Personally, I like to wear a full face most of the time when I’m out and about. I do this simply because I enjoy applying makeup (I find it both creative and relaxing), and also because I feel at my happiest and most confident wearing makeup. No, this does not mean I’m self-conscious, it doesn’t mean I don’t feel confident without it, it doesn’t mean I’m gagging for male attention (although who cares if I was?), and it certainly doesn’t make me fake. I am an honest, caring, and friendly person, and my presence or lack of makeup does not, and will never, contribute towards those values in any way.
How about this idea? How about we all make our own choices, and empower and own those choices, without feeling the need to bash and tear down the choices that other people make. How about we decide to love ourselves without telling someone else why they shouldn’t. If you are someone who feels the need to pick faults in others to make yourself feel good, it’s time to take a look at your own confidence levels, and re-evaluate whether judging people is actually making you feel any better. I can already take a good guess at the answer. Yes, this may sound like a big rant, and I guess it is, but it comes from a place of ‘been there’. When I was younger, I was certainly guilty of judging people; sharing posts empowering only certain ‘categories’ of women that I happened to fit into, all in the name of ‘self-love’, but I’m so glad to have realised how toxic that behaviour truly is.
Love yourself and the way you choose to do things, and respect others and the way they choose to do things – it really is as simple as that. We need more love and support in this world, and the little things really do matter.