Once again, it’s that time of year. Valentine’s Day is on the horizon.
Many single people profess to not being bothered by the occasion, casting it aside as a ‘meaningless social construct’ or talking about how ‘nice’ it is to see couples enjoying their day.
I am, unfortunately, not one of those people.
I’ve absolutely no shame in admitting that I hate Valentine’s Day. I am one of those annoying bitter singles.
Having been single for the whole of my adult life, I always find myself thinking, “surely I will be in a nice happy relationship by next Valentine’s Day.”
Then when it doesn’t happen, I turn into something of a Miss Havisham for a short period of time. I’m not sure why I’ve always put so much emphasis on the day, but it’s just something that’s developed.
I don’t think it’s too uncommon.
Anyway, as a perpetual single pringle, I do like to make something special of the day for myself, and if you’re single this year too, I urge you to do the same.
There are many different ways you can show yourself some love this Valentine’s Day, but here are just a few of my favourites:
- Treat Yourself to Something you’ve been Wanting for ages. Let’s face it, whoever said money can’t buy happiness was lying at least a little bit. I get the sentiment, but in my experience treating yourself to something material can absolutely cheer you up. In that spirit, this is your sign to get on that world wide web and order the thing that popped into your head as you were reading this. At the end of the day, you deserve a gift just as much as anyone in a relationship does!
- Dress up. Who says you need a date to dress up on Valentine’s Day? Because you absolutely do NOT (you are your own date, after all)! Get dressed up (or down, if you catch my drift) in an outfit that makes you feel good and take pictures of yourself. To be honest, I do this pretty much weekly and it really is an integral part of my self-care.
- Wine and Dine Yourself. Whether you want to do a fancy dinner with wine and candles or an equally as incredible pizza and cheesy chips, Valentine’s Day is not for dieting. And the great thing about being single in this case is that there’s no need to compromise. Think about what you would indulge on if there were no rules? Got it? Now go for it – because there AREN’T any rules. Chocolate for starter followed by a takeaway? Absolutely no bother hun.
- Self-Care/Pamper Night. Go the full works – bubble bath, face mask, hair mask, exfoliate, moisturise, movie night, read, journal, put on your favourite PJs, do your nails. The possibilities are endless. Go all out to make yourself feel good, because today is about LOVE, and nobody said that couldn’t be self-love.
- Take the day off. Whatever this looks like for you, do it. Perhaps you need a day away from social media or just want to chill without thinking about work. Just dedicate the day to allowing yourself to do whatever you want to, guilt-free. I don’t know about you, but even at the weekends I feel I should be doing chores and catching up on things I missed during the week. Commit to letting go of this mentality.
Listen, I know Valentine’s Day can be a bit shit for us singles, but there really is no need for it to be, and there’s certainly no need to miss out.
Dedicate Valentine’s Day 2021 to completely and unconditionally loving yourself – I promise you won’t regret it.
Writing about Valentine’s Day is pretty much a yearly occasion for me – if you’re interested, here are a few other Valentine’s-focused blog posts to check out: